The morning he left...BIG SMILE
Praise: It's been 17 days since Clayton's move and so far nothing but good reports. I'm told he is cheerful and very talkative (surprise surprise). When I talk to him on the phone Clayton sounds very happy and in good spirits. At first he was really making an effort to initiate conversation with me and stay on the phone a little longer by talking about and asking about everyone he knows. :) But, recently, it sounds as if I'm "bugging him." I guess that's a good thing.......right? :)
Prayer: Please pray that Clayton adjusts to his new home. At the end of 30 days we will discuss if this is the right fit for Clayton and sign the "official" contract/paperwork. According to the director, no one has ever been declined/rejected. But, it's still a waiting period which means it isn't settle at this point.
There's a total of 6 young adults living there. Clayton has a bathroom in his bedroom -approx. 5 feet away from his bed which is great for him. One roommate who is wheelchair bound so he won't be in Clayton's personal space which is good since Clayton sometimes get annoyed if people are too close to him. There is a staff of about 6 caregivers with various schedules. Clayton has a male caregiver who comes every morning to get him dressed and ready for school. At his new home, Clayton has the option to participate in activities or not, depending upon how he feels and what he wants. This is awesome. Since, at home with us-he doesn't have a choice but to do whatever it is we're doing. Clayton is doing things like walking 1/2 miles (one way) to McDonalds which is awesome since we can barely get him to walk across the street. He is also helping around the house by setting the dinner table. I pray this move will give Clayton a new sense of independence and much opportunity for growth. And more than anything it is my desire to increase his quality of life.
I'm thankful for God's faithfulness to our family! I really believe this is all part of God's plan for Clayton. I feel like I'm in constant prayer....I suppose thats the way I'm suppose to live..in constant prayer. This was a tough decision, one that took about 2 years of prayer and the support and agreement by all....My Dad, Gail, Val, Calida, Elliot & Glen. I wouldn't have been able to make this decision without the love & support from my husband, Elli.
PS. As for me, I'm missing my boy. Letting him go has been the most difficult thing for me to do. I go through phases of being sad, happy for him, relief for me--and guilty about the relief. I'm pretty much not able to really convey the mixed emotions that I'm feeling. However, I have no doubt we made the right decision for Clayton. It is strongly suggested that we do not visit for 30 days, I'm hoping to make it. But, I'm not sure I can do it.